The whole intention, premise, basis of the Self Love Girl Gang is women loving and supporting themselves and each other. So, let me go on record as declaring this is not a space for MEAN GIRLS. While, I do love the movie and Rachel McAdams is one of my all time favorites, the Regina George’s of the world can form their own gang. We aren’t obsessed with you.

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Photo by Kyle Loftus on Unsplash

A lot of our gang are entrepreneurs; they work in direct sales, network marketing, etc. I myself have a Network Marketing business or two. I have joined others in this venture solely based on a need to be a part of something bigger, to create relationships, friendships, a squad. You get what I’m saying. Maybe you’re a stay at home mom that really loved the idea of having a little something to call your own, where you could make friends that possibly held your same ideals and obviously loved the same products as you. Maybe you did it for the “side gig” and multiple streams of income, but then you got to know some of the people on your team and you really just clicked with them; you grew a true friendship, your connection became deeper than just the company and products that brought you together.

My current company was not my first and it may not be my last. The thing is, once you understand all that Network Marketing has to offer, you may find a product or service that is more aligned with who you are and what you are all about. So, you may decide to “switch companies”.

“GOOD FOR YOU! Do what you are passionate about, find what works for you and your family and be the best you can possibly be. I believe in you and you are going to rock this thing! I think it’s super awesome and I totally support your decision.” These are the things we would expect our friends to say. That’s what your friends have been saying with every rank advancement and contest or incentive trip earned. So, why wouldn’t they say that now?

Let’s talk about that weird thing that happens when, all of a sudden, your “friends” disappear. They aren’t saying any of the things you had imagined they would. In fact, they’ve stopped commenting on your posts, they’ve begun ignoring your messages, they may even have gone so far as to BLOCK you on all social media.

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You may start getting screen shots sent to you from those who are still with the company you left. Screen shots of people saying DON’T TALK TO HER or SHE IS TRYING TO STEAL YOUR PEOPLE or SHE IS SNEAKY AND CAN’T BE TRUSTED or BLOCK HER. They send them to you with the intention of letting you know what is being said because it truly bothers them to their core, but at the same time, they don’t want to be involved because of the backlash they may receive from taking your back. I mean, they’re still part of the team…or whatever you want to call it.

Here’s the thing, if you are a leader and you are saying these things, your “people/team” are going to start to wonder what it is that has you so fearful. Why are you saying these things about someone who, just last week, you were complimenting? What are you saying or thinking about the rest of your team behind their backs? How can you possibly believe that someone, who was so awesome and highly respected last week, is now all of a sudden a poacher and a manipulator? Are you mentally stable? Should we still trust YOU?

I’m not saying that there aren’t some people out there that do the wrong things. There are those who abuse the code of ethics and have done some shady shit. BLESS AND RELEASE them because there is just no reason to give away any of your energy to that. I’m simply saying, when it happens to the good people, it’s heartbreaking and emotionally crippling. There is nothing like having an abundance of friends and a support system one day and then a larger group of enemies and an army attacking you the next. If you truly believe that you are in the right place at the right time then it shouldn’t matter who comes and goes and maintaining a long term relationship will bring you more joy than money could ever buy. I promise you that.

FOR THIS REASON, I wanted to have a group for women to belong no matter what. No matter your company, no matter your background, no matter your age, race, ethnicity, religion, etc. A place where you would always have your girls and your support system and the ONLY thing that could change it, is your conduct. If you are, in fact, a mean girl, you’ll need to go be mean elsewhere.

We love and support ourselves and each other here at the SLGG. Thank you for being part of our gang!

Love, KD

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